Most middle-years children need some time to adjust to their parents' sep­aration before their mother or father begins having new romantic interests.In general, a good guideline is about a six-month wait from the time you separate from your spouse to the time you start to date, although dating will often oc­cur sooner.If you're still wearing a wedding ring, take it off now.In fact, shed any rings that would convey the message that you're unavailable.

Even if you fit the description of single mom or dad, it's important for you to realize that you are more than just a parent.You should talk with your child about your new adult friends.Al­low your youngster to express her feelings and opinions.To help boost your confidence, take more care with your appearance than you might be in the habit of doing.When you're out doing errands on the weekend, wear something that flatters you, even if it's just a pair of great-looking jeans, instead of wearing cutoffs or sweats. A different haircut and an updated wardrobe are both good ways to feel more attractive and desirable.Taking things slowly and encouraging them to talk about anything they are worried about is the way to go: ‘What would mum/dad say if they thought you were going out with someone else?’ is a typical question and we must be ready with an appropriate answer.